Conny: I hid my gambling problem really well from the family. The
girls knew, they knew, but Robert didn't know. He didn't believe them when they
Robert: I basically accused them of lying. Well, look, she'd never
lied to me in her life. sometimes she'd come home and I'd say 'oh the girls
reckon you've been at the pokies' 'Oh yeah, I did, but you know I only spent
you know twenty dollars just to sort of you know see have a bit of a flutter
and then I came home.'
Ok, I believed that. But I
didn't realize until afterwards how much money she'd lost. Also the
problem is that I've got two daughters that are really angry with me. And the
biggest problem was to try and get their trust back. Try and relate to them and
say 'look I am sorry, I do apologise, you were right'
Conny: I'm still finding out now to this day just how badly it
affected him. He's not, he keeps things hidden. He was angry even for a long
time afterwards which I didn't realise. He hid that really well. Trust, he lost trust in me and hid that as well. I didn't
Robert: And it wasn't until I met one of Conny's counsellors and he sat down
with me one day coz I said to him, 'you know, it'd be nice if they'd have been
some help for me' and he said 'Robert,
It's about time that people did start to realise that, look, it's
not just the gambler that's affected, it's everybody else. The best thing you can do is, get help.